I was sorting old notes for shredding and I came across notes from a case I chose not to mediate. A few years ago I met with a gentleman who was interested in mediation for a divorce. He was organized, well groomed and dressed, spoke eloquently and was charming. I asked him if the divorce […]

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Every mediator has a different style and tone. In divorce or separation mediation sessions I focus on the outcome and I attempt to mold discussions to be helpful and progressive. I never ask why a couple is separating. It simply does not matter legally, unless of course a crime has been committed or there are […]

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Nesting

Nesting- “I recently met for the first time with a divorcing couple who were mediating a divorce settlement and also a custody plan for their children. With rare exceptions new divorce clients with children always state within the first three minutes of meeting “We only want to do what is best for our children.” Or […]

I have read the advice column “Dear Abby” since I was a teenager. Over the years I have noticed many trends and categories of letters and themes; love, unrequited love, disappointments, loss, etc. In the last years more letters appear addressing the issues of aging parents. How to encourage- or force- them to move out […]

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The economic downturn left deep financial wounds in many families. The young investments bankers of Wall Street may be buying their first Bentleys but often the average American has not recovered enough to buy a new Kia. Clients I work with often select mediation as their vehicle to divorce because is cost-effective. Frankly mediation is […]

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Mediation is utilized for many differing types of conflicts. Mediation can be helpful in elder disputes, neighbor issues, landlord and tenant issues, divorce, separations and post divorce decree. I often work with parties after the divorce has been finalized. Mediation sessions can fine-tune parenting issues that may arise after the divorce. As children age their […]

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Shame, as defined by Merriam-Webster1-a feeling of guilt, regret, or sadness that you have because you know you have done something wrong, 2-the ability to feel guilt, regret, or embarrassment 3-dishonor or disgrace  We all have experienced a feeling of shame. We shame ourselves and others “graciously” shame us too. Entire lives have been shaped […]

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New Year appears in the shadows of winter, nudging us along, motivating our gluttonous souls forward into the growing light of future months.  Resolutions are made with intention and yet our resolutions often fall away, leaving behind a dimming glimmer of our hopes and dreams for ourselves, unmet and abandoned.  Many resolutions are familiar to us as we […]

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65 is the new 45 I have been noticing a trend with divorce mediation clients I have been working with that directly parallels a national trend. Many clients are seeking to separate and divorce after 30 or even 40 years of marriage. The term for this phenomenon is “Gray Divorce”. I recently worked with a […]

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Divorce can be a terrifying and confusing process. Everyone has an opinion as to what are the best options for you to pursue. Should you try to mediate first, retain an attorney immediately, move out, stay put together in the same house? Empty out joint bank accounts, take only half the funds? Everyone has a […]

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