Why choose mediation? I believe we have all had a similar experience, either with a friend or acquaintance or perhaps ourselves. If you were to ask a recently divorced individual the following questions, the answers are likely universal and firm. Did you feel honored and respected throughout the legal process? Do you believe the legal …
My younger daughter and I volunteer at a food shelf as shoppers. We meet the clients and guide them through the shelves of the food shelf helping them make their selections and making certain they do not miss any categories. The broad spectrum of clients always amazes me; from young single mothers, to singles adults, …
I have been noticing a trend with divorce mediation clients I have been working with that directly parallels a national trend. Many clients are seeking to separate and divorce after 30 or even 40 years of marriage. The term for this phenomenon is “Gray Divorce.” I recently worked with a couple who were 60 and …
I recently attended a lovely wedding of a couple in their mid twenties. At the reception one of the groomsmen’s toast to the couple caught me completely by surprise. He toasted the bride and groom that they might enjoy many happy years together, just had their parents have enjoyed. “You two are the only couple …
This entry is reposted from an excellent article. It is worth reposting. 10 Signs Your Kid Is Handling Divorce in a Positive Way by Rosalind Sedacca,Divorce and Parenting Coach, Author, Founder of Child-Centered Divorce Network We all know divorce can take its toll on both parents and their children. However, that doesn’t have to be …
I recently attended a recital on a cloudy Sunday afternoon. Let’s be honest, other than the recital student you attend to hear perform their recital piece, your mind begins to wander, at least mine does. I was seated to the back of the recital space which gave me a great view of the other guests. …
Mediation is a wonderful tool and an alternative to traditional legal processes. Mediation really shines in divorce settlements if the parties involved are willing to try to separate their financial, property and custody issues from their emotional needs and feelings. How do people find and choose a mediator to work with? Honestly the process is …
Success belongs to the client, not to the mediator Read More »
In 1989 Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner starred in the movie The War of The Roses. They played a wealthy divorcing couple trying to get the other to leave the house. They destroy the house, ruin cars, swing from chandeliers and just behave badly. They were stubborn, self indulgent, childish and evil. Almost 25 years …
There are not many marriages where both spouses have equal advocacy skills. Ideally, both parties have equal bargaining power, but if they don’t which is more often the case, the mediator’s job is to empower the party who may not feel as comfortable in the process. She can see if the couple will agree to …
Myth #2: A couple can only mediate if they have equal power Read More »
There are many myths regarding mediation that need to be explored and dispelled. There is a lot of misinformation confusion. I’d like to try to clear some of that up by sharing accurate information regarding mediation and the services that mediators offer. Myth #1: Only people who agree can mediate. If that were true, there …